Dating Goals of the Opposite Sexes 2 by Leanne & Kevin Benton

(Note: This our own work soul, by us and the whole or no bit or part is to be copied without our prior permission!)Ranting on an old subject that lives on in an older blog...by Leanne & Kevin Benton
I had lots of responses at several different blogging sites I have posted my earlier blog "Dating Goals of the Opposite Sexes". And more over I have had my inbox BLOWN UP with both sexes asking a dozen questions that of course I feel I can answer or at least give a fine southern bell rant on.

A friend sent an email tonite about my dating blog saying basicly that he was a bit miffed at my lumping all men as dogs (ie. all they want is to...* ahem*...in my words, "GET LAID") Then a while later sent me this/another, more to the point note.
"I know a lot of guys that just want to GET LAID, and mostly the women go for these troubled souls, and the nice guy, looking for love, relationship... something real, well he gets passed over 99.9% of the time, so in my world women do it to themselves..."
His point in a nutshell...Men don't just go out seeking ALWAYS to just "GET LAID"...but they Damn sure WILL, if given half the chance, USE WOMEN in this manner because they are so damn easy to BE USED... to this note from my buddy I saw my hubby lifted up a cheer and I saw a light bulb go metaphorically FLICK! And I am off to the races with my keyboard...

Now the womens side
The women all seemed to think I had specifically targeted them and took offense. I refer only to the ones that actually responded to me. My response to them in kind now is... If you looked at my blog and felt you were looking into a mirror then you should reflect within yourself and ask WHY you thought this, AM I this person? If the answer is YES! then you should make a plan for change Asap. But my inbox can't fix what ails you so please don't involve me. I had nothing to do with the state of your emotional health at this moment except that you might owe me a thank you later for giving you a wake up call. But I DID NOT place you in the good or not so good standing graces of men. I merely observed the obvious. I did not do this to you, no mamam. Meditate, change and listen...


Now for my RANT!
I pull up my soap box...Julia Sugarbaker style, positioning it just so...can everybody hear me in the back? Ok I'm ready to begin. Pay attention please!..*the crowd hushes*

Yes sadly my friend was correct. I have so many single friends. The truth is, they are STILL single becuz they just don't know HOW to pick em! STUPID! I try try try in vain to guide them. I hear idiotic things like "Oh but he's not my type or he's isn't that cute, or eww he has kids to deal with!"....ridiculous...I can't believe it when they throw in the kid part considering THEY have kids themselves! Now thats funny rite thur! In their words men..."Girl I don't wanna deal wid no other mans kids! I got my own!" This is the crap these women who date man after man, sometime multiples at one time, spew. Then wonder why they can't get what they want out of a man?? WAT!? When they have already tanked on marriage number 2,3,4 like a certain friend of mine, hell I've lost count! She is the most hardheaded woman I have ever met. But she is just one of soooo soooo many of my friends, like the women that men encounter and end up using..."TO GET LAID!" just as I said in my earlier blog. Then I didn't really have an explaination for it just knew it was basically true but after a few dozen letters and my insiteful buddy tonite I now have the 411 you ladies have been craving... and as usual, you don't want to hear it...
Oh yes my male inbox friend tonite, you were preachin to the choir sir I say!! I have a marriage that has withstood the test of time and seen its share of troubles so you'd think these girls would hang on my every word??? Oh and yet alas HA HA!! they treat me like a teenager treats their parents...like I AM THE ONE thats out of touch and doesn't know my stuff when it comes to men. GRRR! I want to just SCREAM in their face!!!, "Well GEE WHIZ, I may not be in the dating world hun but then again I don't have to be anymore cuz I know how to get it right! duhr!"

Thank you all for coming, I will close now...

So I end with this saged advise I have been giving my single male friends for YEARS:
It seems like dumb thinking but the best women to at least check out are newly divorced or newly seperated women. They obviously know how to have a relationship to a degree, and if they are of any merit they WON'T be on the market long so GO GET HER TIGERS, BEFORE SOMEONE ELSE DOES! This is my secret dating tip for guys. :) Have a great nite. Thanks so much for being my buddies and girlfrands and reading theses blogs. Winks*

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